Many men are torn between using a sweet pick up line or simply approach a girl and talk to her seamlessly.
This is a typical dilemma for all men when they are about to approach a beautiful woman.
While there is an infinite amount of things to say to a woman such as a very sweet pick up line, you cannot say any of them unless you were able to break the ice.
When you approach a woman or a group of people, you have to evaluate what type of opener is best for the situation.
Indirect, direct, situational, screening, functional, no opener, humorous or sweet pick up lines. All of them have pros and cons, especially if you try to go for a sweet pick up line, there is a tendency that she will be uncomfortable if you have not establish the connection first.
When To Use Sweet Pick Up Lines
Indirect openers such as sweet pick up lines give you the highest chance of approaching successfully because they shield your romantic interest and let you come in “under the radar.” They do require you to work harder during the transition phase though and they can come across as awkward during daytime dating (aka “Day Game”). Direct openers work less often, but when they do, your value starts off high because the woman has accepted your initial frame.
Situational openers can be used successfully during daytime dating or in your social circle, but can come across as a cliché in a nightclub if you are not prepared to quickly follow with a good transition. Sometimes, such as when you are introduced to a woman by someone you know, you will not need an opener at all. If you dating a woman in a romantic setting just like a fine dining restaurant or a high-class hotel, romantic and sweet pick up lines are suitable to use.
When Not To Use Sweet Pick Up Lines
Keep in mind that you are not trying to seduce or even attract a woman with your opener (although she may be attracted to your confidence when you use direct openers). You’re simply starting a conversation. However, relying on sweet pick up lines is not the only way to approach a woman. You do not need a sweet pick up line to start a conversation and interact with a beautiful lad.
The opener is just the first step so do not go overboard trying to accomplish too many things with it. Take it one-step at a time. Remember that approaching is not that big of a deal. People talk to strangers all the time, and you should never feel guilt or shame about wanting to talk to a new woman.
If you have women in your life, it should be natural for you to talk to attractive women when the mood strikes you. If you do not have women in your life, it will help give the impression that you do through your confident behavior.
If you find yourself freezing with approach anxiety, this is usually because you fear rejection. Rejection is not a big deal either. The more you are rejected, the less it will affect you and the better your approach skills will become. A woman is not rejecting your worth as a human being; she is rejecting your approach.
One of the best ways to reduce approach anxiety (and the chance of rejection) is to put yourself in a social mood by doing warm ups. In addition, rejection is more possible if you resort to sweet pick up lines because a girl can be uncomfortable and she may feel awkward.
Go make small talk with other people in the room, befriend one of the employees of the venue, or even pick up your cell phone and have a fake conversation with someone named “sweetie.” These warm ups can even serve double-duty by triggering the female attraction switch of “pre-selection” before you even begin your opener.
Pre-selection plays on the fact that women are attracted to men who are attractive to other women. It is important to be knowledgeable in a wide array of topics so that you will not end up using those sweet pick up lines.
Once you get good at approaching, you will realize it doesn’t make a difference how you start the conversation, as long as you actually start one and follow up with good transition and attraction material. You don’t need sweet pick up lines to approach a beautiful woman.
Originally posted 2012-02-13 03:30:34.