How To Be A Confident Alpha Male
I’m sure you’ve heard the term Alpha Male before. Some guys associate this phrase with an animal species: the biggest, baddest lion or monkey that the others defer to and gets to eat first, and mate with the most attractive females in the tribe.
In the minds of some men, the expression Alpha Male has a negative meaning. It means the big jock who used to rule their high school, bullying the weaker kids and snatching all the hot chicks. Or, you might have an Alpha Male in your workplace: a “man’s man” who projects total confidence, and always gets what he’s after. Maybe he’s difficult to work for, but you gotta respect the guy.
Whatever you picture when you think of Alpha Males, the truth is that most guys believe that you’re either born “Alpha,” or you are destined to be a regular, average Nice Guy who has narrow dating options. But in reality, we’ve all got an Alpha Male within us. So right now I want to give you several quick tips on how to be an Alpha Male, which come from my own personal experiences.
How To Become An Alpha Male, Tip #1: Bringing out your Alpha side means that you display charm and confidence when you are around women AND other men. Always expand your social network! This is SO important. The bottom line is, I’ve seen lots of guys who study “pickup” because they want to learn how to become an Alpha Male. Even though some of these men become more skilled and confident when they’re around women, they still act like “Beta” guys when they’re around other men — especially Alpha Males whom they perceive to have higher status than they do.
I know that when you go out, the main ambition is to meet girls, but making new alliances with “Alpha” guys is going to elevate your long-term lifestyle. Make this a part of your new routine. Whenever you’re hanging out in a social environment — such as a nightclub, bar or party — and you see dudes who appear to be popular, radiate positive energy and are having fun (and getting attention from women) — introduce yourself to these dudes. Walk up to the coolest-looking dude in the room and tell him, “Bro, I’m impressed. The girls into you, what’s your secret?” Chances are, this guy will be friendly towards you and he’ll gladly share some wisdom. Now you’ve added a powerful friend and wingman to your social network.
When you start expanding your network of Alpha wingmen, the social benefits are enormous. These guys will invite you to bars, parties, etc. that you didn’t know about. They might know girls they want to hook you up with. And when you’re hanging out with your Alpha buddies in social situations, you automatically have social proof in the eyes of the women. When girls see you hanging with these guys, it shows that you have high social value.
You may need to begin spending your free time with some new guys, if the friends you normally go out with lack the right level of energy and confidence.
How To Be An Alpha Male, Tip #2: My second quick tip on being an Alpha Male is that you must stop being wishy-washy, and be decisive instead. Women respect men who lay out a path for them to follow. This may sound a little bit chauvenistic, but it’s the truth. A girl doesn’t want to be the one to decide where to go eat dinner with you, or which bar to go to for drinks. Actually, when you act indecisive around her, and make weak suggestions, you’re actually causing her to lose interest in you. Women need to feel that their man is emotionally strong and able to provide security and protection.
Whenever there is a decision to be made, YOU need to step up and express how you think it should go. This principle even applies if it’s as inconsequential as determining where to go eat or have coffee. She might not always agree, but she will respect the fact that you have a definite opinion.
The weak move is saying to a girl, “So if you’re not busy sometime, maybe we could meet up and do something…”
ALPHA MOVE: “So what’s your favorite funny movie of all time? I’ll rent it and we can watch it at my place on Friday night, while you sample some of my cooking.” Or, “You told me that you love Indian food. I know about this great restaurant that’s a hidden gem, and I know you’re going to flip out when you try the food. I’ll pick you up Thursday night at 7 o’clock.”
How To Become An Alpha Male, Tip #3: Leave them wanting more. The most socially powerful Alpha Males – whether it’s a business mogul, or a Hollywood star – are very busy people. They simply are not going to give you unlimited amounts of time. Your attitude should be the same with girls. YOU want to be the one ending the conversation first, whether it’s a conversation at a bar, or a phone call to set up a date.
The normal guy will keep talking and babbling until she finally says, “I need to go find my friend” or “it’s was nice talking to you, but I need to be up early tomorrow…” As an Alpha Male, you must ALWAYS have a game plan in mind when you talk to a girl, and reach that objective before the interaction comes to an end. At a club, the purpose may be to get her digits and see here again. Or, if you’re calling her on the phone, the aim could be to establish when you’re going to see her next. In essence, you’ve got to have a plan, a strategy, and a way to execute it.
Originally posted 2011-05-27 06:24:10.