Beginning The Conversation: How To Approach Girls
Attracting and approaching women is a tough thing to do. You have to gather up the confidence to walk up to a woman and kick off the conversation, and then get her phone number. If the thought of randomly approaching women and striking up conversations makes you feel anxious, I understand that this process can be hard at first, and I’ve been there myself.
To have success with women, you first have to get one, and that starts with approaching them. I know that most guys are intimidated by the thought of approaching women, especially in public places. Most men would rather have a fight with a UFC champion than approach a woman. If this is how you feel, then you should change your ways so that you can start having the success that you desire.
One thing that you can do to help out with approaching women is practice in the mirror. Talking to yourself in the mirror will allow you to see how you look and to build up the confidence you need to approach someone. If you can first be comfortable with yourself, then you will more than likely be comfortable with talking with a woman too.
I’m sure you’ve heard of men approaching women and seducing them instantly. I don’t recommend trying this as this is the fastest way to get a drink thrown into your face. But when you do approach a woman, you need to have no fear of rejection. Not being intimated of rejection is a skill that you need to develop, and you can begin by walking up to women and asking them a simple question.
For instance, you should practice walking up to women and asking them a genuine question. Your question could be if they know what time it is or if they know where the nearest McDonalds is. This will help you to get into the habit of naturally approaching women so when the time comes to ask a woman for her phone number, it won’t be as hard to do.
If you can learn how not to be afraid of rejection, then you increase your chances of having success with women by a long shot. When practicing what I suggested above, you should only practice walking up to beautiful women. Ask a woman where the nearest bank is or where the nearest grocery store is. You’d be amazed at the responses and some of these women will even start up conversations with you!
Learn How to Approach a Girl You Like
Are you curious to know how to approach a girl you like without getting rejected? For those who have no experience, this can be a difficult task but once you understand everything it becomes easier. These strategies I’m going to share with you are based on how women think.
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #1: Display Social Value
Never approach a girl directly and introduce yourself before this step. Showing off your personality, charisma and social clout can help you be noticed first and build up a huge amount of attraction. Simply put, you have to display certain traits that women find attractive. For example, make sure your crowd is loving your company; talking to bartenders and waitresses you know; make an effort to talk to people you know in the room.
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #2: Don’t Give Her an Impression That You Are Too Interested
Men who are way too eager to please a woman are a complete turn off. This is the reason why players get laid easily than nice guys. Don’t be a jerk, I didn’t say that. Just give her an impression that you want to chat with her but if she’s not digging it, you’re cool with it. If you’ve conveyed your social value well, she would know that if she refuses to talk to you, you won’t be affected at all. There are a lot of other girls who would be more than willing to give you their attention. So in this game, you make yourself the prize.
One way of doing this step is by letting her know from the get go that you’re not going to stay long and you only wanted to tell her or ask her something. Here’s an example:
“Hey, I know you’re having fun with your friends so I don’t want to take too much of your time. I saw you a while ago and I just thought you look stunning in that dress. So I thought I’d say Hi”.
She would either smile or thank you for the compliment, either way stay true to your words and leave.
How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #3: Understanding Neutral and Flirt Openers
Now for some specific approaches and openers…
Apparently, neutral openers are the complete opposite of flirt openers. If you want to use neutral openers, you have to be observant and notice everything about the girl and then you can make comments, questions or compliments using such observations.
It tells the girl that you not only appreciate her but you’re also willing to listen to what she has to say. The goal is to say something that interests her and make her talk to you. Women love it when guys see them as someone of value rather than someon they can sleep with. Although this may be your goal but the point is, you don’t make it obvious. Otherwise, you’ll be rejected right off the bat. Call it ritual if you want but women warm up to these tactics and these are your tickets to her bed or her heart, for the romantics.
Flirt openers on the other hand should only be used once you’ve mastered the skill of conversing with women. Flirt openers also work if you’re 100% sure that she’s into you. If in case you’re starting to get a lot of positive results everytime you use flirt openers, congratulations, it may mean you’re already an expert when it comes to macking.
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Originally posted 2011-08-04 09:38:26.