Do Pick Up Lines Work?
A lot of guys think you’re supposed to use some kind of “cute pick up lines” when you try to start a conversation with a girl.
Learning how to approach women might sound like a difficult and painful process. You have to gather up the confidence to walk up to a woman and introduce yourself, and then get her phone number. If the thought of randomly approaching women and striking up conversations makes you feel anxious, I understand that this process can be hard at first, and I’ve been there myself.
But the bottom line is, you’ve got to learn how to approach women if you’re going to expand your social life and elevate your dating life. I know that most guys are intimidated by the thought of approaching women, especially in public places. . If you feel nervous, shy or even hesitant to approach women, then I suggest you start learning some specific techniques to help you approach women without hesitation or fear.
What you need to know is that your fear of rejection can be overcome, and it can be overcome simply and easily. Maybe you’re reluctant to approach hot girls because you’re worried about rejection, or that something could go wrong — but hey, guess what? That’s life, and things do go wrong! It really doesn’t matter in the long run. What matters is that you have the confidence and courage to walk up to that hottie, introduce yourself, and take a shot.
Practicing in the mirror, and performing some mental exercises, is one way to build up your confidence with approaching women. Talking to yourself in the mirror will allow you to see how you look and to build up the confidence you need to approach someone. If you can first be comfortable with yourself, then you will more than likely be comfortable with talking with a woman too.
I’m sure you’ve heard of men approaching women and seducing them instantly. Those kinds of aggressive tactics will only get you a drink thrown in your face, or you’ll simply turn her off quickly and she’ll walk away. But when you do approach a woman, you need to have no fear of rejection. Not being intimated of rejection is a skill that you need to develop, and you can begin by walking up to women and asking them a simple question.
For instance, you should practice walking up to women and asking them a sincere question. Your question could be if they know what time it is or if they know where the nearest Mcdonalds is. This will help you to get into the habit of naturally approaching women so when the time comes to ask a woman for her phone number, it won’t be as difficult to do.
Your chances of succeeding with women are going to skyrocket if you can get past your “approach anxiety” and fear of rejection. When practicing what I suggested above, you should only practice walking up to beautiful women. You can walk up to any girl and ask her where the nearest mall or supermarket is. You may be surprised that some women will strike up a conversation with YOU.
You should do whatever it takes to not be intimidated by women. Learn the techniques that I’m about to show you in our free book, and within seventy two hours you’ll be approaching women (even stunning ones!) with confidence, charm and skill. Note: Our free guide to approaching women is only available for a limited time, so be sure to download your copy now.
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A lot of guys wonder whether pickup lines can be effective when you approach women, and if they really work on women. When you consider a guy using pick up lines, you probably picture some greasy wanna-be player, his shirt unbuttoned to reveal a gold chain and a furry chest. As a Barry White song plays on the soundtrack, he lurks in the club hunting for his next conquest…
He goes to approach the girl…eyes her up and down, like a hungry jackal eyeballing a slab of meat…and delivers a crude pick up line that causes her to roll her eyes (or throw her martini in his face).
I’m referring to pick up lines like these…
“I sure hope you know CPR, because you’re taking my breath away.”
“Would you mind loaning me a quarter? [What for?] I want to call my mom and tell her I just met the woman of my dreams.”
“Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes.”
“Are you religious? Cause you are the answers to all my prayers.”
“You owe me a drink, miss. [Why?] Because the moment I saw you, I dropped mine.”
“I’m new in town — could you give me directions to your apartment?”
“If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together.”
“Your legs must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind all night.”
“Is there an airport nearby or is that just my heart taking off?”
“Was your father an alien? Because there’s nothing else like you on Earth!”
You actually CAN use a funny pick up line to approach a lot of women, and not all of them are that lame. Here are a few that women may actually find charming or flattering — IF you follow them up correctly (which I’ll explain how to do in a moment).
“Would you touch me so I can tell my friends I’ve been touched by an angel?”
“Can you pull this heart-shaped arrow out of my back, because a little kid with wings just shot me.”
“What does it feel like to be the cutest girl in the room?”
“If a thousand painters worked for a thousand years, they could not create a work of art as gorgeous as you.”
(Note: Don’t use this pick up line on women who are extremely attractive and KNOW it. This one is effective on a girl who is attractive, but is clearly NOT the best-looking girl in the place.)
And then, there’s another category of pick up lines some guys use when they approach women. You can call these ones…
Pick Up Lines That Might Get You Kicked In The Balls
When you are approaching women, use this last type of pick up line with extreme caution. While they might get an amused reaction (particularly if she’s a drunken nymphomaniac), you’re equally likely to get hit. (Or if she has a steroid-crazed boyfriend lurking nearby.) Like I said, be careful…
“Do you know what has 142 teeth and holds back the Incredible Hulk? [What?] My zipper.”
“Your daddy must play the trumpet, because he sure made me horny!”
“Is that a keg in your pants? Because I’d love to tap that ass.”
The Truth About Pick Up Lines
So are pick up lines something to be mocked? Do successful pickup artists ever use them to approach women and start conversations? I have authored a few books on picking up girls, which teach many different resourceful approaches to starting conversations with girls. I personally feel that if you’re learning how to approach women, using pick up lines is NOT the way to go.
I typically suggest that you use the “under the radar” style of opening conversations. What this generally means is that you say (or ask) something clever when you approach women — a comment or question that catches her by surprise and engages her attention, without signalling your sexual interest. These methods of approaching women feel more casual and natural to both you and her.
For example, when you approach a woman you might ask for her opinion on an unexpected topic — one that women are of course going to have strong feelings about.
Opener #1: “Quick question — would you allow your boyfriend to go to a bachelor party if you knew there were going to be strippers there? My friend Samantha asked me for my opinion.”
Opener #2: “Hi, quick question — I need your help to settle a debate. How long do you need to be dating someone before you change your status on Facebook from “single” to “in a relationship?” Because my friend Jennifer has been going out with a guy for a month and SHE thinks it’s an exclusive thing, but he hasn’t changed his “single” status and she’s wondering if she should say something…”
These methods of approaching women are especially effective because they’re based on what I call “relationship grey areas.” Men and women tend to have their own ideas about what’s allowed in a relationship, and what is unacceptable. Here’s another line you can use when you approach women: “does it count as cheating if a guy has lunch with his ex-girlfriend, and doesn’t tell his new girlfriend about it?”
When you approach a woman, your goal with the opening line is to get a positive response that makes her want to talk to you further. And if you’re a confident, playful guy, this one always gets a fun reaction:
“Do I look gay? Because this guy was TOTALLY flirting with me in the men’s room a minute ago. Do you think it’s because of my shirt?” (Or, “is it the way my butt looks in these jeans?”)
I wouldn’t classify those as pick up lines. But does this mean pick up lines are, by definition, a bad thing?
In some situations, I actually opened the conversation by using one of those cheesy pick up lines — and because I was able to transition into a fun conversation, I was able to get the girl into bed that night!
It was because I made fun of the fact that I had USED a pick up line! After saying it, I followed up with “I know that TOTALLY sounded like a pick up line…but I want to talk to you for a moment and I couldn’t think of what else to say. My name’s Dean…”
Then from that point, I used my usual methods — I asked a few “strategic” questions to get her in a fun mindset, and sharing information about herself…I used techniques like “Cold Reads” and “Hypotheticals”… and throughout the conversation, I managed the flow and hit the right buttons to make her feel curiosity and attraction.
Now and again a really corny pick up line can be a FUN way to start things off. The key to making this work is understanding how to follow it with something original that makes her want to talk to you.
Or, you can always use this:
“You’re so beautiful that you made me forget my pick up line.”
You can’t put a price tag on a line like that!
Now, before I explain how to FOLLOW UP and get her to start feeling FAST ATTRACTION, I ought to warn you about something…
The tactics you will learn in our FREE guide to approaching girls will affect women on a deep psychological level and trigger their deepest desires. We ask you to please use this information responsibly! These are basically the most effective methods if you want to learn how to approach women, move past cute pick up lines, and seduce women with confidence and skill.
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Originally posted 2011-05-18 06:20:40.