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Pick Up Lines To Get Girls – Statements Of Intent
We all know it takes pick up lines to get girls, but most guys fail at using them because they’re doing it all wrong. What you should be doing is making a “statement of intent.” This is all part of escalating sexual tension and laying the groundwork for sex later.
Statements of intent can have a number of different forms. There are direct ones, like telling her she’s sexy, you’re going to try to get into her pants, or you’d like to do this and that to her. There are also negations, like saying, “If there was nobody else here right now, I would bend you over right here.” Another one is: “You probably can’t imagine the things I’m thinking about doing with you.” The idea is to give her a clear sign that you’re sexually interested. You’re putting the sexual agenda on the table.
The idea is not to pressure her though. For example, don’t say, “You’ve got to have sex with me tonight or you’ll never hear from me again.” All you’re doing is letting her know how you feel about her. Laying it out like that changes the rules of the game and lets her know exactly what’s going on.
She actually knows what’s going on from the very beginning, but doing this is creating what I call “passive acceptance.” This is the idea that if you lay it out in the open and tell her after you’ve already laid the groundwork with comfort, attraction and qualification, she’s not going to say no.
You also have to do it in a way that doesn’t freak her out. This is why comfort is so important. Put it on the table explicitly, but not too explicitly. The whole point isn’t to describe to her each position that you’re going to do it in; it’s just to let her know that you think she’s hot and you’re interested in her in a sexual way.
Why don’t more guys do this? The reason is that we’ve all been taught that this is a game where we have to be coy about it. You have to come off like a nice guy and slip it to her stealthily. The only problem with this way of thinking is that it’s all wrong. The truth is that women are just as interested in sex as men. Actually approaching a woman without the sexual tension is what leads to the situation where you get last-minute rejection.
Try a few pick up lines to get girls in bed and see what works. The key to success is timing them right; don’t get hot and heavy right off the bat, but start building sexual tension and laying it on the table early enough in the game that you can escalate it and it won’t surprise her.
Originally posted 2005-05-16 15:19:56.