How To Pick Up Girls At Clubs
Part of the blueprint for a successful pickup requires you to look good. Here are a few tips that will help you look (and feel) your sharpest the next time you get a chance to meet a stunner.
Hit The Gym
Visiting the gym on a regular basis will will have a more relaxing, confidence-building effect than practically any drink or drug you could shove down your throat, and hey, hitting the gym is great for you as well. Make going to the gym a regular part of your daily routine, and you will surely look and feel better…which is guaranteed to make you more attractive to girls. (Furthermore, gyms are amazing places to MEET beautiful girls).
Work On Your Style
Girls notice how a guy puts himself together. Despite what you might think, girls are not in perpetual pursuit of their next makeover project. Wondering what type of clothes you should pick out for yourself? All you need to do is hit the department store at your local mall, and get advice from the cutest salesgirl. She’ll be happy to show you some cool clothes and offer her opinion (and now you’re chatting with a cute girl, which is never a bad thing!)
Practicing proper hygiene goes beyond taking a shower once a day and dousing yourself in deodorant and cologne. When you shower, use body wash and scrub every part of your body. In fact, scrub every part TWICE. You could be hooking up later with a girl, and she’ll be a lot more sensitive to smells and funky odors than you are.
Make Your Arrival Early
Wherever you decide to go for a night out, try to arrive early enough so you can procure some real estate. Depending on the venue (and how crowded it is), this could mean getting a seat at the bar, or a table near the dance floor. Possessing a piece of “real estate” inside the venue where you can chill out in private (and host the gals you’ll be meeting tonight) is a very precious commodity in a crowded bar or club.
This will be your “safe zone” where you can feel in command of the situation. You can make trips out onto the dance floor or to other parts of the venue to meet girls, and you can always bring them back to your spot for a drink. As the night progresses, stock your table with a few cool girls that are fun to chill with. They’ll serve as a “magnet” to attract other girls to your table. See & be seen, drink & be drunk.
Once you’ve staked your claim on that piece of real estate, get a feel for the place and the energy level tonight. Scout the rest of the venue; do a lap or two. As you do, carefully study all the signs — the body language and eye contact — that will help you determine who to pay a visit to as the night progresses.
I’ve always found that a moderate amount of booze can add an extra layer of confidence to my game, take my verbal skills from Bush to Obama levels and put your joke-telling abilities on par with Larry David and Louis C.K. However, when you overdo the boozing, as in trying to relive Motley Crue’s hard-drinking glory days, will only make you look foolisy. Your inner strife will come gushing as you’re in mid-conversation with some hottie and your “clever” comments will be decreased to an incoherent drone, so practice graceful inebriation.
Invest The Time And Effort
Regardless of whether your objective tonight is to score her phone number, a personal tour of her condo or a hand in marriage, it is going to require work. Keep in mind, the other option is another evening alone on the couch in front of an infomercial. So get off your butt and get to work.
When you see a girl you’re interested in, wait for the right moment — like her standing at the bar next to you or taking leave of her 18 friends for two valuable minutes — to seize it and tell her. You’ll have to get past your “approach anxiety” in order to start seizing these opportunities. If you suffer from particularly bad approach anxiety, read the book Mack Tactics to turbo-charge your confidence around girls.
When she is within earshot and can hear what you’re saying, you can make a comment about the environment…her cool necklace or tattoo…or some dorky-looking dude at the other end of the car who’s been checking her out. Whatever yoru comment is based on, just make sure she understands what you are referring to.
And while you work on boosting your game, stop telling the half-truths, deceptions and outright lies that are so prevalent in nightlife venue when guys try to mack on girls. There is really no need for you to mislead her about the car you REALLY drive or exaggerate the amount of zeros in your salary to increase the perceived size of your penis. Honesty might open more doors (and legs) than you think and also sends a subtle, yet discernible message that you are confident enough to not have to embellish.
Be A Man Of Mystery
Women are intrigued by a man with mystique. The key to being mysterious is not telling women all about yourself. Don’t introduce yourself by name right away. Open her, use some of the conversational techniques in the Mack Tactics e book, and jack up her interest and curiosity before you tell her your name. Keep her guessing — if she asks you what you do for a living, blow it off with a joke. (“I’m a lion tamer.” “I’m an ass model.” “I’m a professional gigolo.” Etc.) Then direct the spotlight back to her by asking her a question. Likewise, you should spread out all personal information over time to keep her guessing.
Next tip: don’t try to spend the entire night hanging out with her. It’s important to frame yourself as the “prize” she wants to WIN, and one way to do this is to step away and go do other things. Socialize with other people. Maybe even introduce yourself to another woman (to introduce some jealousy!). Being a challenge will leave her wanting more.
YOU Have To Make It Happen!
You can’t just will a woman to relinquish her digits (or panties); you have to make it happen. Remember, you’re not going to a bra burning rally; you’re going to a club, where most of the women are expecting you to approach them — not the other way around. The above strategies only work in tandem with a measure of brazenness, so remember to check your timidity along with your coat.
The law of averages dictates that a few of your nights out are destined to culminate with you stuffing your face at some low-rent IHOP with the rest of your down-on-their-luck crew. Don’t get unrealistic expectations, and never beat yourself up if you suffer through a bad night where the conversations simply won’t go your way. There’s always tomorrow!
Originally posted 2011-07-02 08:07:10.