How To Talk To Women And Turn Them On
Guys are always coming to me for techniques on how to talk to women. Specifically, they want to know what kind of language “turns women on.” I always tell these folks, before you learn the best words to pick up girls and figure out what to talk about with a girl, you need to be aware of the words and language to avoid.
To put it bluntly, women are turned off by men who across as “needy.” When talking to women, most guys don’t even realize how needy they are acting. Women, however, pick up on this vibe very quickly — almost instantly. It’s obvious to women when you are trying to impress them. The reality is that when a girl gets the sense that you’re trying to impress her, it has the opposite effect — it actually turns her off, because you’re coming across as a low-value guy.
Women are not attracted to guys that come across as insecure. You can’t talk to women and seem like a nervous wreck and expect her to feel attraction towards you. A woman expects a man to be powerful, confident, and secure with himself. If she senses that you don’t possess those traits she will quickly lose attraction towards you.
Guys who come across as BORING are also a major turn-off to women. Knowing how to keep the conversation fun is one of the keys to being successful when talking to women. If you find yourself struggling to fill awkward silences, asking her boring and predictable “interview” questions (“So where are you from?” “What do you do for fun?” etc), it’s a safe bet that the girl you’re talking to is going to tune out pretty quickly.
One of the major factors that will kill a woman’s attraction toward you is displaying a lack of social intelligence. Women are social creatures. And they blindly follow the social “norms.” If a man doesn’t seem aware of what is socially acceptable or “cool” she will quickly dismiss him as being “below” her. Guys display a lack of social intelligence when they make stupid or inappropriate comments, fail to read the “signals” the girl is sending him, or when they keep cracking jokes that no one (except for him) finds entertaining.
When you consider it realistically, you really can’t blame a woman for not wanting a weak, insecure, socially clueless, boring, or needy man. Ask yourself… do you find these sort of women attractive?
Now let’s discuss…
What type of talk turns women on?
You have to know how to talk to women in a way that brings out her fun, flirty, and playful side. The 1980s hit song “Girls Just Want To Have Fun” says it all. This holds true in any environment where women are hanging out socializing (bars, clubs, parties, etc). She is there to have fun. You must be able to flirt with a woman in a way that makes her feel like she is back on the playground with her childhood crush.
Never forget that women are driven by their emotions. When you talk to women, you need to be aware of their emotional state — and the state you want to PUT them in. You can do this by talking about emotional topics like her passions, childhood, vacations, or any other conversation topics that evoke emotion.
Next, you want to display to her that you’re a socially intelligent guy. Women are insanely turned on by men they believe have power, status, and social approval. The good news is that you really don’t need to have power, status, etc. You just need to make her THINK you have these qualities, by talking to her in a way that conveys confidence and self-assuredness. One of the keys is to talk to women in a way that suggests you have slight “social superiority,” without coming off as arrogant. It’s a rule of human nature: if a girl feels that you’re slightly above them on the social ladder, they’re going to want to “hitch their cart” to you and be a part of your world.
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Next, you must talk to women in a way that brings out the “sexy side” of their personality. In reality, you can have a fascinating conversation with her about any number of topics (politics, sports, health trends, etc) but it’s not going to turn her on and make her want to sleep with you. In order to talk to a woman in a way that leads to sexual attraction you must not be scared to talk about things on a more intimate level. I’m not suggesting that you talk to her about sex, but you can explore some more intimate areas with her. These are the sort of topics that create rapport and have women start feeling a connection towards you.
Very few guys understand the dynamics of how to talk to women in a way that creates deep interest and attraction. The vast majority of men are flat-out boring, or convey so much insecurity that women want to get away from them as fast as possible.
I have coached enough men to know that most of them will freeze up in front of a beautiful woman. And if they don’t completely freeze up, they try to talk to her — but come across as needy, boring and insecure, which is a lethal combination.
You’ll notice that guys who are really good with women will LEAD the conversation in a fun, flirty and playful manner. She wants you to be able to make her laugh, smile, and feel safe and secure around you.
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In brief, the key to attracting a woman is to talk to her in a way that makes her feel fun, enjoyment and a sense of excitement when she’s around you — while slowly letting the sexual tension build. At that point, it’s about escalating (verbally AND physically) and knowing the perfect moment to give her the first kiss…
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Originally posted 2011-05-23 09:27:08.