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[Day 149 of 365]
I’m having a bad day, so bear with the ranting. (It’d probably be best if you just skip the rest of this.)
Sometimes I hate being a girl.
I hate it when your period goes haywire and leaks through your tampon and then you have to go home to change. And then once you get back to where ever it was that you were, you realize that your black bra is visible underneath your lighter colored shirt. And then because your face is breaking out for no reason at all you have to go and buy concealer. But they make you choose between "fair" and "ivory" and you have no idea the distinction between the two so you randomly pick one and then get home to discover that you bought the other last time. (But what’s it matter when your skin has no pigment anyway?) Being home now, it shouldn’t matter what your hair is doing, but it does because you have to leave soon, and you should probably change your clothes while your on that track. But thanks to that problem you had earlier in the day, none of your other clean clothes fit because your hips are too big and your waist is too small; and you can’t wear a skirt because you’re refusing to shave your legs and it’s too hot to wear nylons. And then you realize that you’re starving because you haven’t eaten all day and you’re worried that if you go into the kitchen you’ll gorge yourself on junk food, and you don’t want to go out because it costs money and is way too fatty. But everybody says you don’t need to watch what you eat because you’re crazy skinny anyway. But you do because you’ve been gaining weight at a steady pace for the past few weeks. And you have to stay pretty and skinny because you don’t have any job skills or work experience because no one will hire you; so you may as well just drop out of college because you’re not doing that great anyway and you’ll never amount to anything but a housewife. Except that you can’t keep a boyfriend for any length of time because there’s always someone prettier or more talented for him to leave you for; and you’re too introverted to ever have a real conversation with that cute guy in line behind you at starbucks. And since no one in your country actually performs arranged marriages, you’re pretty much screwed for life so you might as well just end it all. But you can’t because people depend on you too much and you can’t bear the thought of having people suffer through losing you. So what do you do? You skank through life the way you’re already going, wasting resources, time, energy; and you wake up the next day and do it all over again.
Women around the world know what a “bootie call” is, some of us
have been in the predicament and the rest of us only hear the
sad stories of those who have been sucked into world of
bootie-calls only to be heart broken. What most of us don’t hear
about is how to avoid the entire bootie-call situation to begin
with and that’s what you’ll learn to do in this detailed
article…that’s not for the faint of heart!
A dear friend of mine, I wont mention names because she knows
who she is suffered a great deal and it was all thanks to the
Yes, there is such a thing as a bootie-call syndrome, it’s a
disease with symptoms and treatments, so it deserves no lesser
of a name.
Allow me to set the scene to explain what happened to my
friend, pay attention because it could happen to you.
After a string of miserably failed relationships basically due
to just bad boyfriends my single friend fell into a state of
depression. She felt that she would never find that perfect
companion, there was no one on this earth intended for her, she
felt worthless, unattractive and after a couple of years living
the single life, she was tired of being alone.
One afternoon my friend and a co-worker went out for lunch at a
restaurant—that’s where it happened!
A man sitting a few tables away stared at her, when she would
catch him looking at her she would look away as not to draw even
more attention to her but the damage was already done. Each time
she looked his way, he was looking at her and the more she would
look him, the more signals he was sending her way by winking or
nodding his head.
Let me point something out quickly, a “normal” single lady (if
there is such a thing) wouldn’t have given this bozo the time of
day but under the circumstances, my friend thought it was cute
My friend and her co-worker sat and giggled over lunch,
whispering about this man’s actions until he strolled over to
her table using every corny pick up line in the book. Commenting
on her eyes, her clothing, her smile and how he even liked the
sound of her name.
To make a long story shorter, a few days later my friend phoned
me in tears because she slept with this man. She felt like a
tramp, she was ashamed and hurt by what she allowed herself to
do. My friend had never given into such temptation for someone
that she was simply attracted to, she wasn’t even sure that she
was attracted to him but she only knew that she was carried away
by the attention he gave her.
And that my friends, is exactly the basis of a bootie-call and
it happens to many unsuspecting women every day. If not
monitored closely, it can evolve into the bootie-call syndrome
and be emotionally devastating for a woman.
Luckily my friend realized what she had done and some time
later when this man eventually did call, she gave him a quick
So what can you do to avoid this trap? It’s simple really but
requires discipline and the steps are outlined below.
Understand that love takes time.
Don’t get carried away with a moment, love does take time and
fifteen minutes isn’t enough. If you’ve been single for a while,
don’t “settle” for whatever comes along. You should know what
you’re looking for, this is called your standard and you should
never lower your standards.
Know that you are worthy.
Just because you’ve had a few failed relationships doesn’t mean
you are not worthy of love. Don’t give up on having a deep,
meaningful and loving relationship even if you’ve been single
for five years or more. You possess qualities that someone will
love, for that someone you’re looking for and that you will one
Don’t speed up the process.
If you meet someone, you like them, your extremely attracted to
them, everything is going well, you don’t see yourself being
able to settle down with them and you feel the need to
breed—don’t rush. Sometimes even the best of people can get
wrapped up into the bootie-call syndrome without ever meaning
for it to happen. If the feelings are purely attraction then end
There’s no better way to feel good about being single than
marketing yourself. Get your nails done, get your hair styled,
buy a new outfit and go take some pictures! Join an online
dating service, post a profile, choose some respectful venues to
post ads in search of your soul mate, tell your friends you want
a date, join a singles club, hang out with friends every chance
you get, don’t sit around at home and most importantly, be happy
with yourself. No one can love you, until you love yourself and
dealing with the aspects of being single is the only way to
truly accomplish that kind of happiness.
Mr. Right can’t find you if he doesn’t know where to look.
Putting it all together!
When you know the dos and don’ts, this type of scenario is less
likely to happen to you. My friend had to step back and take a
long look at what happened. Then she made the appropriate
changes, since she has in fact met a man who is madly in love
with her and they are planning to get married next summer. Being
single is hard enough without allowing yourself to make things
harder, avoid a bootie-call if you want more.
About the author: Lisa Gonzalez is a successful mom, a wife, a
generalist freelance writer, a pizza junkie and the owner of
www.keywordprincess.com and www.zonemom.com. Lisa lives and
works from her home on the east coast of picturesque South
Carolina with her rambunctious family.
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Boys do you have no idea what to get your girlfriend? Girl’s are you stumpped about what to get your boyfriend? Well i hope that this will help you. And, let me tell you that my boyfriend loved what iI got him.
Originally posted 2011-04-06 02:22:28.